Less trivialized than vaginal penetration, anal sex deserves some advice. Both to experience maximum pleasure and to maintain an optimum level of protection.
If you have never had anal sex, you will know that this novelty can cause some apprehension. Indeed, it is common to be intrigued by this penetration as ancient as it is taboo. The sticking point? Less lubrication in the anus compared to the vagina, and therefore a slower and more delicate preparation at the beginning. But also a relationship to penetration and therefore to domination which is sometimes sensitive. To make things go as smoothly as possible, talk to your partner, go around the question if it’s the first time. The BBC anal videos will make you hornier there.
When it comes time to take action, take the time for sensual caresses. Foreplay is the best way to raise desire, stimulate excitement and relax … Your sphincters will appreciate it. It is advisable to use a lubricant to avoid unpleasant friction, for both men and women, whether it is sexual penetration or with a sextoy . If you are not too comfortable, you can guide your partner with your finger. And remember, you can always change your mind and put it off or forever.
“Sodomy, by the curiosity it arouses, the pleasure imagined or felt, the relational issues it offers, can just as much attract as make feared a naughty, sadistic, dirty vision of oneself”, estimates the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc in her book. But when it is desired and shared on both sides, there is nothing perverse about sodomy. It is not the practice but the state of the relationship that makes the perversion. Thus, like any other sexual posture, but also simply relational, it is important not to indulge in a self-denial, but to always make it the expression of one’s freedom.
Pleasure until orgasm is not automatic through anal sex. So don’t be impatient if you don’t reach the pinnacle quickly, and with each gear. Like any position, there is a time to learn more about your body. Especially since the complicity under the duvet and the experience of your partner also come into play.
- If sodomy is part of your routine sex practice, also use a lubricant if necessary, to prevent unpleasant feelings of overheating in the hours and days to come.
- Finally, a shower is essential for good hygiene after sodomy, clean all the areas in contact with the anal area.
Note: just like vaginal penetration, wearing a condom during anal sex is essential to stay protected against sexually transmitted infections if you do not have a regular partner.